Thursday, November 6, 2008


don't tell me that you understand,
don't tell me that you know...
don't tell me that i will surely survive,
how i will surely grow...

don't tell me this is just a test,
that i am truly blessed...
that i am chosen for the task,
apart from all the rest...

don't come at me with answers,
that can only come from me...
don't tell me how my grief will pass,
that i will soon be free...

don't stand in pious judgment,
of the bonds that i must untie...
don't tell me how to suffer,
and don't tell me how to cry....

my life is filled with selfishness,
my pain is all i see...
but i need you, i need your love,

accept me in my up's and down's,
i need someone to share....
just hold my hand and let me cry,
and say, my friend, i care...

author unknown

i had received this the same time i did the "please" i posted previously.

Saturday, November 1, 2008


please don't ask me if i'm over it yet. i'll never be "over it."

please don't tell me he/she is in a better place. he/she isn't here.

please don't say "at least he/she isn't suffering." i haven't come to terms with why he/she had to suffer at all.

please don't tell me you know how i feel, unless you have lost someone to ________.

please don't tell me to get on with my life. i'm still here, you'll notice.

please don't ask me if i feel better. bereavement isn't a conditions that "clears up."

please don't tell me "God never makes a mistake" or "it was God's will." you mean He did this on purpose?"

please don't tell me "at least you had him/her for ______years/months." what year would you choose for them to die?

please don't tell me God never gives you more than you can bear. who decides how much another person can bear?

PLEASE - just say you are sorry.

PLEASE - just say you remember him/her if you do.

PLEASE - just let me talk if i want to

PLEASE - just let me say his/her name without turning away or changing the subject.

PLEASE - let me cry when i must.

i was recently given a copy of this, and thought it was worth sharing.